We are committed lifepartners whose time, boundaries, and support is primarily for each other and our child, Rowan. We have pooled and share all our resources – financial, material, time and energy.
We are also committed to building and caring for our larger extended family and community. We devote our resources to those ends, to the extent that we are able.
We are committed to caring for each other’s emotional, physical, intellectual and spiritual needs. We seek to support each other in following our dreams and in growing as people.
We honor and keep our commitments to ourselves, each other and to Rowan. We will not make agreements we do not intend or want to keep. We will renegotiate any promises we cannot keep. It also means setting and keeping appropriate boundaries for ourselves, each other and with others.
We have a commitment to honesty including full disclosure to each other. We do not withhold important information from each other. We will not make promises to other people that include lying to or lies of omission from each other.
We are committed to sharing our feelings with each other and listening to each other. We will attempt to resolve our conflicts in ways that are respectful and loving. If we need help from each other or from others, we will ask it.
We are committed to being the best parents we can be for our son, Rowan. We are committed to meeting his needs and helping him grow as healthy and happy as possible. That includes being as honest and responsible with him as possible. It means setting and keeping appropriate boundaries for and with him.
We make all major decisions by consensus. That means that all three of us must come to agreement on a course of action or a change in our rules. Major decisions include financial, legal, medical, parenting, time management, relationships, and household resources.
All of our financial and material resources are owned, shared and managed jointly including paychecks, debts, property, etc. We individually own some data, some books and music, clothes, personal papers, some spiritual objects, and some tools. Since our financial resources are at this point very limited, we are careful about their use and currently have to have consensus to spend more than $25.
Since time is an important resource, we promise to spend time together and to keep each other informed of our schedule as far in advance as possible. We check posted schedules before making a time commitment and always double-check with partners either before or as soon as possible after scheduling anything.
Because we value all our time and energy equally, we attempt to divide both our labor and our rewards equally. That means making consensus decisions on our division of household and extra-household labor equitably.
RW Relationship Boundaries and Safe Sex Agreements. Note that this page does require a password for access. If you are interested, please let us know. (Standard password given on the Rabbit Warren Friends and Family list works here too.)